Hello ladies!
So, are you ready for this?
Are you ready to make his eyes roll back, as he immerses in a bliss, and a mind-blowing experience, that would leave him begging for more? Well then, let’s talk about it, shall we?
Question of the day; How long should a blow job actually last?
I could replace this with; “how much do you know your man?”. But we will get there soon. For now, first things first.
Some experts say no more than 12 minutes, others say at least 7 minutes, while others say 10 minutes tops. I say it depends on how you do it, and how much your man loves it. So really, the ball is in your court ladies!
You could just focus on giving him the experience of his life instead of wondering how long you should be there. And if you are doing a good job, trust me, you will know how long it should take. So before we try to figure this out, let me give you some tips!
Tips for a Great Blowjob
Think your blowjobs are taking too long or simply want to rock his world? Here are six great tips.
1. Show Up with Enthusiasm
A little enthusiasm goes a long way. This is the number one thing you need to show up to the table with. Act like you want to be there and actually be excited about it. It is one of the biggest turn-ons you can provide.
If you want it to be exceptional, you need more than just your lips and lubes. Try to capture his imagination and stimulate his mind to build up anticipation before you even go down on him. You could make the first move or let him take charge. Whatever trick you have up your sleeve, show him how much you can’t wait to suck his cock.
2. Be Sloppy
I am not talking about the kind of sloppy that has your hands slipping and sliding off his dick or the one that makes you lose rhythm. I’m talking about the good kind of sloppy. Don’t be afraid to use your spit.
Try to do something a little sexy; Spit on the tip and along the shaft, pull back a little, and make that eye contact, then go back to sucking and licking his dick softly back and forth.
Lubes are also great. If you are not using these already, try to find one that matches your taste. There are different flavors you can try out. That is if there is some kind of flavor that your taste buds love. There are also others without any flavor. Whatever works for you.
3. Add a Little Handjob to the Mix
There is really no blow job without a handjob. Add some spice with a little hand job, especially if your gag reflex is a little sensitive, and you can’t go as deep. Think about it like this; your mouth is providing the wetness and your hands the tightness. Make sure your hand is as wet as it can be.
While you are sucking him, put your hand (one or both) at the base of the shaft with the same grip, to give him the deep-throat sensation. Spit on it to make it a little wetter and don’t forget to look him in the eyes. Eye contact is the icing on the cake here, he’ll love it.
4. Keep Your Tongue Soft
The only time your tongue should be hard is when you are tracing the tip of the penis, for that little spice and tease. Otherwise, keep your tongue soft, wet, and loose. After all, that is what a blowjob is all about. Your tongue is meant to provide that softness, warmth, and texture that can’t be found anywhere else.
5. Less Suction and Lip Pressure
A common mistake most ladies make is adding too much lip pressure. To maximize his pleasure, ensure your lips are soft and smooth and release the pressure. Try to slightly make the “fish lips”, while softly playing with the head.
6. Don’t Forget the Balls
It is easy to be carried away with suckin, licking, and playing with the penis and forget about the balls. If you want him to go crazy, add the balls to the mix too. He will like it when you fondle, suck, and lick them while still stroking the shaft.
He may also like it when you continue to suck the dick while playing with the balls with your hands, or, when you add just a little pressure on them while working the dick with your lips and tongue. Don’t be shy to try a combination of all these. Most importantly, find out what drives him crazier and work with it. Sometimes, you have to experiment a little bit before you hit that spot.
How Long Should the BJ Last?
If this question is still bugging you even after all the tips above, I would say, it all just depends on the situation at the moment. If it is foreplay, exploring each other’s bodies, and building up to sex, then there is really no time limit. Similarly, your man might want you to give him the blowjob until he finishes. Just as long as you are both having fun and enjoying it, keep at it.
Experts say a blow job should last between 10-15 minutes. This is considered short enough for your neck and jaw not to get cramped, and long enough to pleasure him to satisfaction. However, it still depends on other factors like how long he can last, and how long you can do it.
Of course, the environment you are in can also play a part in how long it lasts. If you set the mood with some dim, colored light, scented candles, sexy music, and top it off with some sexy lingerie, it won’t be the same as when you are not so intentional about it.
It is also important to keep in mind that if you don’t like it, don’t do it. Whether you are on the giving or the receiving end, you should be able to still find pleasure in doing it. There shouldn’t be any expectations or hopes of receiving something in exchange for another, as this may lead to disappointments and worse, breakups.
If you have any concerns, communication is key. You should be able to express your feelings, emotions, and fantasies, especially if this is the love of your life.