There are two sides of the coin when it comes to watching porn with the one you want. It’s not a solution to a lackluster sex life, however is a free option to spice things up for a night. If it’s out of your comfort zone, how do you propose trying it?
As it transpires, there’s a good chance your partner watches porn on their own, and it’s not so taboo to bring it into the bedroom, as it has potential to bring you closer together sexually.
For what could be a touchy subject, it always should begin with an open, unjudgmental conversation. If in the end it’s found you’re both on the same page, here’s how to go about it:
1. Evaluate the Mood
Now that you’ve both consented to the idea, it’s crucial to assess your partners feelings. Make it apparent that the end goal, is to enhance your new sexual experience. Reassurance is your strongest foot forward when it comes to the ease of the first time. The last thing you want is for this to bring out insecurities and diffidence for you or your partner.
2. Browse Together!
It may not be your best bet to just pop on any video when you see fit. When the time comes, it should be something you both can get into.
I’ve found when browsing, it can be a bonding experience in itself, as we all know, there are some cringeworthy laughs hidden in the archives of any porn website.
More seriously, the exploration is the most important part, let your partner pick something that would ultimately turn them on. That way it’s less uneasy on their behalf.
3. Boundaries and Consent
Before you commence on your adventure, as with any new sexual experience, you should make your boundaries clear, and finalize that they are 100% okay with the idea.
I stress this because porn is not the same for everybody. Some see it as an unrealistic display of love-making, some feel so strongly it could easily reinforce the insecurities within a person. Be observant throughout the encounter and address any signs of discomfort right away.
Spicing up your sex life is not worth disrespecting your partner, it can always be revisited if it doesn’t work out the first time around.
Lastly, and most importantly, have fun! After all, statistics do show this to be a positive sexual reform for couples.